Remember, when you were growing up and mom used to quote scripture? At least mine did, at least when it was to her benefit 🙂
I remember it well, “Son, people in glass houses should not throw stones.” This was reference to me pointing my “ever critical” finger at others that were doing things that I had done in the past, or maybe even the present.
Kid problems – remember the “high school” games? Looking back over 20+ years, they were so “trivial”. I often hear others around me wishing they could go back and live those times again. But they always want to establish rules – “I would want to know then what I know now…” Me Too, that is why I play the lotto. But if you don’t play, you cannot complain when you don’t win – right?
On the PD – when we were interviewing victims and suspects of domestic violence – the “three sides” rule was most apparent. The aggressor had a story, the victim had a story, if there were an independent observer – their story was usually the most accurate.
When dealing with Realtors, there are possibly three sides as well. Especially, when you are dealing with “hungry” agents. Have you ever noticed that desperate people do desperate things?
If you have hired one of the desperate, you can usually tell. When they are not returning your calls or aggressive enough when it counts – you might want to clear the air by asking questions.
- Has our offer been received?
- What did the other agent say?
- Are we opening up escrow?
- Are there other offers?
- Have you heard from the other agent?
- Did you try everything, email, fax and text as well as a phone call?
- Why don’t you call their Broker or Office Manager – Everyone has a Boss of sorts – someone that can point their “critical finger”at, if things go wrong.
When I want to get into touch with someone right now – the redial feature is my best friend. Believe me when I say they will pick up and be a bit aggravated, but if it is a for a client of ours – I would rather deal with anger than “wrath”.
When we write offers and submit the same – we have a way we do things so we don’t have to answer those “uncomfortable” questions from our clients.
You will know as a buyer or seller, if you are getting close to asking the “uncomfortable” – you will hear a change of pitch in your Realtor’s verbiage – the answers will not be as fluid as when you first met with them at a past point of contact. If you have an agent that does not display these signs of “desperation” – Stay forever loyal – you have found quality that is rare in our industry!
Everyone has the right to “critically” question anyone for anything. Just make sure you have all the facts before heading down that road – Remember, the “glass houses” thing mother used to say 🙂